Do you create your own reality

Do you create your personal reality? What quantum science says might surprise you.

Are you the victim in your life story, or an all-powerful genie? Do you believe life happens to you, or that you create your personal reality?

You know the saying, “where your attention goes, energy flows?” When you think about it, everything you’ve ever done or accomplished was because you focused on exactly what you wanted, or believed you deserved. You manifested that focus into something material.  

In the same way, being stuck in ‘fight or flight’, struggling with feelings of anger or fear and avoiding uncomfortable feelings leaves you a victim of your trauma and a slave to an insurmountable mountain of shutdown feelings and emotions. Your body begins to observe that focused energy, manifesting it into something material. You become physically ill.

Reality exists where the mind creates focus

From focusing on wanting a shower in the morning, getting that big project done at work,  training for a marathon, or planning and saving for that dream vacation. Everything you’ve ever accomplished or created was by focusing on an intention and transmuting thought to matter -you create your personal reality.

No matter your situation, you can overcome pain and trauma by leaning into painful and uncomfortable feelings and taking your power back. You can show self love by focusing your attention on what you want more of.

Are you a victim of your past?

Your life is a reflection of your own self-worth and self-talk. Do you live your life from a perspective that you’ve been a victim of what life has thrown at you? Are all your problems because of circumstances and events that have happened to you in your past? 

If you’re living from that perspective, you’re observing your entire world from a place that life happens to you and you have no control over your life. You give all of your power away to the person or circumstance that hurt you, living as if you can’t control your own reality. But you do have control. You have one hundred percent control over how you see the world, and what you need to create the life you want.

Everything has infinite possibilities

Science and ancient spiritual teachings have recognized the physical world we live in is a reality we create through our thoughts. 

Buddha said, “All creation, streaming out of the self, is only the self. When the world arises in me, it is just an illusion,” Einstein said, “Reality is merely an illusion, although a very persistent one.”

It turns out from a quantum perspective, everything has infinite possibilities. That is until observation through our own consciousness, reduces it to a single possibility. Once something is observed, it forces the natural laws of physics to take a path as matter.

The idea that reality is what you choose it to be is backed by a quantum experiment called the Double Slit Experiment.

Before understanding why the results of the experiment is so mind-bending, it helps to explore the Coles notes on how light travels.

For centuries scientists struggled to understand what form light took to travel from a source to our eyes, unsure whether it moved as waves or as a stream of tiny particles.

Light is matter

Physicist Sir Issac Newton understood light obeyed strict geometric rules after he did a series of experiments using light and mirrors, around 1700. If a ray of light was shone at a mirror, it would bounce back the same way a ball would. He came to the conclusion, since waves aren’t predictable, light must be carried by tiny, weightless particles meaning light is matter.

The Double Slit Experiment - light is a wave?

In 1801 physicist Thomas Young performed the ‘double slit experiment.’ He took a sheet of cardstock and made two small slits through it. Then, he placed a light that produced only one wavelength, so the light could travel through the two slits and hit the surface on the other side of the cardstock.

Young expected to see two vertical lines of light on the second surface behind the cardstock, but what he saw surprised him. The light created a series of dark and light lines, like a barcode that you scan at the grocery store. He concluded the light was behaving the way a wave of water does when it passes through a narrow opening, spreading out into hemispherical ripples.

The Double Slit Experiment

As each wave or ripple of light passes through the two slits, they bump into each other. If the top of one wave and bottom of another wave meet each other, they cancel each other out, and no light is cast. Where the tops of two waves meet, they cast light on the wall, creating the light of the interference pattern on the second surface. Young concluded, light is a wave.

Light emits electromagnetic radiation

Then, in 1900, Max Planck came along and solved a problem physicists were trying to understand. Scientists knew as objects were heated, they emitted light (like an electric stove burner or a tungsten light bulb filament). They discovered that light emitted electromagnetic radiation, but they didn’t understand why.

Planck came up with a calculation to explain how and why some materials absorb and emit electromagnetic radiation better than others. His calculation only worked if he defined electromagnetic radiation as being held in tiny packets he called ‘quanta’ (plural for quantum).

The photoelectric effect

At the time, physicists understood, when metal was bathed in visible or ultraviolet light, it would become positively charged. This is known as the ‘photoelectric effect.’ 

Essentially, atoms within the metal vibrate enough they lose their negatively charged electrons. Energy from the light cast on the metal causes the metal to shake the electrons loose. The colour of the light emitted on the metal determines how much energy the electrons carry. Red light excites electrons less than violet light. This presented a conundrum to physicists, if light is a wave.

The energy behind a wave is related to its height; a tall wave has more energy than a small wave. You can think of this in terms of ocean waves.


Wave energy

Surfers are always looking for taller waves to ride; these waves have more energy behind them to build more height as they roll into shore. In contrast, parents like to take their children to more gentle shorelines with low energy (smaller waves).

So light isn't a wave?

Physicists knew the basic principle behind a wave is that it had energy vs height relationship. By extension, they thought to increase the energy of the light transferred to the electron should mean, “Make the light brighter and more energy will be released by the electrons.”  

What they discovered was electrons ejected by a bright light had the same energy as those from exposure from a very dim light of the same frequency (colour). The only difference was that more electrons were ejected by the bright light (this is the law of conservation). 

So, classical physics said it’s possible to move electrons with light, and energy from light is related to the intensity of the light beam. Therefore a brighter light beam should eject electrons with more energy than a dimmer beam, no matter what the frequency (colour) of the light is. But, that wasn’t what happened.

Wait? So light's a particle?

Along comes Albert Einstein, who realizes using Planck’s quanta makes it much easier to understand the photoelectric effect. If light is carried in tiny packets of quanta, then each packet can travel relative to the particular wavelength of light it is associated with. A short wavelength would be denser than a long wavelength. This theory could explain why violet light (high frequency, short wavelength light) had more energy than red light (low frequency, long wavelength).


visible light spectrum

A brighter light can deliver more quantas of light. Still, those quantas are all the same energy and depend on the wavelength (colour) of light they are coming from. In other words, violet light (higher energy on the visible light spectrum) transfers more energy to a single electron than any number of red light quanta (lower energy on the visible light spectrum).

Einstein called these energy packets, photons. Scientists now recognize photons to be a fundamental particle. The human eye is a photon detector that uses visible light to sense the world around us.

The entire electromagnetic spectrum is carried by photons. So then, light is a particle?

Confused? Well, this will blow your mind...

Physicists accept light is both a wave and a particle because neither model can be rejected, and both models can be supported mathematically. What they discovered is by the very act of watching, the observer affects the observed reality. This is known as the Observer Effect.

The Weizmann Institute of Science published the results of a highly controlled experiment in the February 26, 1988 journal Nature. The highly controlled experiment demonstrated how a beam of electrons is affected by the act of being observed. The experiment demonstrated the greater the amount of ‘watching,’ the greater the observer influenced what was taking place.

The Double Slit Experiment Take Two:

The observer effect

Using the double slit experiment, the researchers sent a current of electrons towards the barrier. They used a tiny but sophisticated electronic detector that can spot passing electrons to act as an ‘observer.’ 

The scientists discovered the very presence of the detector near one of the slits caused changes in the interference pattern of the electron waves passing through. Not only did the pattern change, but how much the pattern changed was influenced by how much the detector ‘observed.’

In other words, when the electronic observer’s capacity to detect electrons was increased,the interference waves decreased. As the observer’s capacity to detect electrons decreased, the interference of the waves increased.

Its as if under observation, electrons are forced to behave like particles, not waves.

This video is a totally awesome demonstration of the double slit experiment and what the observer effect is.

source: “What The Bleep Do We Know?”

You create your reality

The observer effect shows us reality exists only where the mind creates focus. You fully participate in your reality, you are not just an observer or bystander in the events that make up your life. Your reality is what you choose it to be.

Through your consciousness, and your observation, particles of energy transform from a wave of energy to physical matter. From a quantum perspective, the higher the degree of observation, the more the particle behaves like matter and manifests into physical, solid matter.

What you focus on expands

Knowing, from this quantum perspective, everything exists as energy, frequency and vibration until observation, our mind and thoughts should follow the same principle. And it does.

When we focus our attention on something, the quicker we attract or manifest it into our lives. As the saying goes, what we focus on expands. Just as Buddha said, “…all that we are arises with our thoughts.”

You don’t choose what happens to you, and it isn’t your fault that you were the innocent bystander in the path of someone else’s wrongdoings. But, you are responsible for your own healing. No one can undo what has been done. It will always be up to you, through your own observations, to ease your pain. 

You can wake up every day feeling miserable, angry, and in disbelief of where you are today based on events in your life that have happened to you. But, when you choose to live from that place, you decide to live from a place of being a victim. You are choosing to observe your world from that perspective, from a place of lacking power, blaming others for your inability to move on, manifesting that energy into matter. 

What happens when you observe from a different place and create a different reality for yourself?

You take back your power.

You can choose self-love. You can decide to treat yourself with kindness and to find gratitude in the simplest things in your day. Instead of carrying the burden of being a victim, you can elect to see that life has thrown you a gift; an opportunity for your unique soul to heal and become exactly what it came here to be. 

When you choose to build a new reality, you create new waves of possibilities for your consciousness to choose from. You become an active participant in creating your reality, turning a wave of thought energy into matter that reflects self-love and light.

Are you an active participant in creating your life?

Let me know what you think in the comments below! 

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With love and deepest gratitude,


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